“Find yourself and express yourself in your own particular way. Express your love openly. Life is nothing but a dream, and if you create your life with love, your dream becomes a masterpiece of art.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz
When I first graduated college, I didn’t ask myself any questions about what would make me happy. At this point, I still believed mainstream society was on my side, that it cared about me- so I looked to it for answers.
“Ok, they’re telling me I should get a corporate job, work my way up the ladder, and make lots of money. Then I can buy anything I want- a nice car, a nice place to live, nice clothes- then the right person will love me, and then I’ll be happy!”
I think back to that young, innocent girl and want to give her a hug. Good intentions, high hopes, but so lost. I wish someone had shaken me and said, “No, there’s another way! Get out while you can!”
But I actually don’t wish that. I’m grateful that I got the job, bought the car, rented the place by the beach and then said, “WTF!? This is it?!”
None of it brought me happiness and, actually, I was miserable.
That’s when it dawned on me, “I’m going to die someday and what’s really going to matter? The money in my bank account or the joy I was able to find in this lifetime?”
I realized we must pave our own paths. We must ask ourselves what will bring happiness rather than believing what we are fed, even when it feels wrong.
What makes you happy? What brings you joy? What feels right?
I loved writing when I was little. Maybe you loved art, film, gardening or snowboarding- but we were all told to get serious. “You can’t make any money doing that!”
Screw that. Don’t give up on what you love. Honor it. Spend time with it. Believe in it! Eventually, you’ll be the best at it, and hell yes you can make money at it when you’re a master of it! And the best part? You’ll be happy. Your life will have meaning. You’ll be living a life that was created by you, not society.
You decide what becomes of your life. Be the creator and don’t take no for an answer. You can have it all. You can make money without being bored or miserable. You can have a life you love!