The Best Path is the One YOU Create

“Find yourself and express yourself in your own particular way. Express your love openly. Life is nothing but a dream, and if you create your life with love, your dream becomes a masterpiece of art.”

– Don Miguel Ruiz

When I first graduated college, I didn’t ask myself any questions about what would make me happy. At this point, I still believed mainstream society was on my side, that it cared about me- so I looked to it for answers.

“Ok, they’re telling me I should get a corporate job, work my way up the ladder, and make lots of money. Then I can buy anything I want- a nice car, a nice place to live, nice clothes- then the right person will love me, and then I’ll be happy!”

I think back to that young, innocent girl and want to give her a hug. Good intentions, high hopes, but so lost. I wish someone had shaken me and said, “No, there’s another way! Get out while you can!”

But I actually don’t wish that. I’m grateful that I got the job, bought the car, rented the place by the beach and then said, “WTF!? This is it?!”

None of it brought me happiness and, actually, I was miserable.

That’s when it dawned on me, “I’m going to die someday and what’s really going to matter? The money in my bank account or the joy I was able to find in this lifetime?”

I realized we must pave our own paths. We must ask ourselves what will bring happiness rather than believing what we are fed, even when it feels wrong.

What makes you happy? What brings you joy? What feels right?

I loved writing when I was little. Maybe you loved art, film, gardening or snowboarding- but we were all told to get serious. “You can’t make any money doing that!”

Screw that. Don’t give up on what you love. Honor it. Spend time with it. Believe in it! Eventually, you’ll be the best at it, and hell yes you can make money at it when you’re a master of it! And the best part? You’ll be happy. Your life will have meaning. You’ll be living a life that was created by you, not society.

You decide what becomes of your life. Be the creator and don’t take no for an answer. You can have it all. You can make money without being bored or miserable. You can have a life you love!

10 thoughts on “The Best Path is the One YOU Create

  1. Nice write Jamie! I love photography, photography loves me. How do I know? It makes me happy. It’s the only love affair I have had that works!


  2. This is awesome advice. Definitely something more people need to hear. There’s fear that we may fall behind, not save enough money, not earn enough money, not be able to buy everything we want…but joy and happiness should be the focus. If you love what you do, people will see that, and what you’re doing will catch on!

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  3. I LOVE this! I can really relate as I’m in the stage post college, pre- career, and figuring out what it is I love to do… So your message is well received at the perfect time!

    Thanks so much for your honesty, your vulnerability, and your enthusiasm for life 🙂


    1. Aw thanks so much Ashley! I’m so glad it came at the right time! And I’m so glad you’re figuring out what you love to do- it’s definitely not the easiest path to take but, then again, easy is boring hehe 🙂 ❤


  4. I’m glad you have the insight to understand the importance of creating a life you want. Not the life your parents or friends or society wants you to have. This is extremely important and yet completely ignored. In fact, it’s actually taught that chasing ones dream is childish and unrealistic. Unless your dreams follow more traditional mainstream ideals.

    This is why when one does find success with more taboo ideals of making a living people are so amazed and cannot grasp how they did it.

    They often fall to “Oh they must just be lucky” John Legend was rejected multiple times by the very studio that would eventually sign him and make him who we all know today. They didn’t see John’s rejection letters, they only see his success. In the end, John is all the same as we, he just refused to break to the will of mainstream.

    I’m glad you’re encouraging this very thing. It saddens me when I hear stories of people who are filled with so many regrets because they broke to the insecurities of others and settled for safe. They end up spending most of their life going through the motions only to reach the point of no return.

    Sorry Jamie for the long message, but this is a topic dear to my heart and I’m happy it is important to you as well. Amazing job. Please never stop writing =)


    1. Thank you for such a sincere response! I loved reading your example of John Legend- this is a great point! No one said it would be easy- but we have to stand firm enough in our passion to not let others sway us. Isn’t it sad that we’re taught that chasing our dreams is childish and unrealistic? Well I guess I don’t want to grow up or be realistic if it means I can have no fun! And yes, isn’t it also interesting how people tend to put down the things they can’t figure out how to get themselves? As you can see, I could go on and on myself. Glad you share the same passion on this issue 🙂 Thanks for making me think! And never stop writing either!


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