When your past calls, don’t answer. It has nothing new to say.
Lately, I’ve been noticing how much my past associations are killing me! I keep dragging the same old limiting beliefs into the present. I’m literally letting them run the show! “Here limiting beliefs, I’m handing you complete power over my emotions, my thoughts, and the way my story unfolds.” And it won’t be a very interesting story if I keep this up. I will keep creating the same experiences over and over again. I will stay frozen in the world of my limiting beliefs.
I first noticed this happening as I was about to begin school. I was unconsciously bringing all of my past associations about school to the present.
Old Beliefs: School is hard and tedious and runs my life.
I was bringing the heaviness of my past beliefs into the present. “School? Ughhh, here we go again. Goodbye freedom.” Body heavy, energy heavy. Why was I choosing to make this my experience when it carried such negativity?! Thank God for my friend Sophie. She caught my limiting past associations in action and said to me, “Jamie, you are going to take on school with ease. You are going to learn. You are going to enjoy your experience. You are going to choose ease this time.”
Wow, was it really this easy? Could I really change these heavy, limiting beliefs that have gained such mass and momentum over the years?
Yes, I really can. It will take effort. It won’t be easy. But I absolutely can.
I have chosen to become aware, brutally aware, of the way my past beliefs are affecting my present life. It’s hard. Sometimes I wince at how I’ve just accepted such toxic beliefs as my truths and how I’ve let them run the show. But this is not a time to be hard on myself. It is a time to have compassion for the Jamie that was unaware and it’s time to get excited about the Jamie who is now aware and empowered in the present.
Limiting beliefs I’ve discovered so far:
Limiting Belief: Work is stressful.
Toxic Result: I run around work with a constant sense of anxiety (Horrible for my health!)
New Belief: I am grateful for my job. All is accomplished with ease.
Empowered Result: I relax!!! And guess what? Everything is still accomplished!
Limiting Belief: Men can’t be trusted.
Toxic Result: I am guarded and never even give new relationships a chance!
New Belief: Men can be trusted. I choose to trust.
Empowered Result: I am able to see men in a new light and attract a different kind of relationship. (This one is hard! A past wound can really rear its ugly head as it tries to guard us from future pain. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. Be kind to yourself as you work through it)
Limiting Belief: I am not creative. (This is a belief of far too many people. We are all creative! We are born to create! We must get rid of this extremely toxic belief that keeps us from reaching our true potentials)
Toxic Result: I never try to create anything!
New Belief: I am creative!
Empowered Result: I think. I imagine. I am more playful. I am open. Suddenly, ideas come to mind. I want to create! And I realize I can!
It has been so important for me to step back and notice how past beliefs are taking a hold of my present. I am so grateful to my friend Sophie, who also said to me, “Jamie, reality is neutral. We paint it with our thoughts and emotions. Our perspective creates our experience.”
What thoughts and emotions are you choosing? Where did they come from? Were they even your beliefs to begin with or did someone choose them for you?
Slow down and watch them in action. Take a moment before you respond and perhaps try choosing differently. Watch what emotions pop up during different situations. Are these emotions even valid anymore? Are you giving past beliefs too much control over the way you feel and respond today?
Every moment is a chance to start anew, to create a more empowered life. What thoughts and emotions will begin to paint the new picture of your life?