Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and said, “I love you”?
I remember the first time I read these instructions in a book. “Look at yourself in the mirror and say, ‘I love you’ everyday. Say it like you mean it. Self- love is the most important thing. It shifts everything.”
I followed the instructions. “I love you.” C’mon- like you mean it! Why was it so hard to get into this?
This was not part of the life curriculum growing up. There were much more important things to learn- coloring, addition, kick ball, practicing neat handwriting. How could we possibly squeeze in developing a loving relationship with ourselves?
I stood before the mirror and realized how completely foreign the idea of self-love was. Ok, maybe the idea I could grasp, but to truly feel it? It was unnatural. Disconnected.
How would my life change if I could look in the mirror and really feel that love, if I could really adore and appreciate the woman staring back at me? If could have compassion for all that she’s been through? If I could see her strength and heart and kindness and courage?
Well, that was it. That’s just what had to start happening. I had to start having my own back.
When we look into our eyes, we have to see the truth that’s within- all of the good, all of the potential, all of the sweat and tears and joys and desires. How much we’ve dared to care. How many times we’ve gotten back up again. How many times we’ve forgiven, helped, sacrificed.
Somehow it became in fashion to focus on all we haven’t done. To beat ourselves up, cut ourselves down. Why? Why would we ever do such a thing?
Look in the mirror. You know who you are. You are love. You are power. You are kind. You are determined and daring and pure. You are still that child who loved to play and laugh and hug and sing and dance. Remember now?
I’ve started to. And now I treat myself with as much love as I would anyone else. I know who I am and I know what’s in my heart- so it’s much easier to be kind to myself through it all.
You have to have your own back or no one else will. We teach other people how to treat us. As we start to treat ourselves with the highest degree of love, compassion, and respect, we remember again who we are and why we’re here: to completely support ourselves in reaching our dreams, to know that we are loved, to fully enjoy life. We are here to applaud ourselves for daring to take this journey everyday.
Think about who you are and all you’ve done.
Find a mirror. Look into your soul.
“I love you.” Mean it.